Maintaining Healthy Relationships During Menopause

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She needs someone to lean on, now more than ever, an ear to bash and a sounding board to canvas her feelings…

Night sweats, itchy skin, migraines, breast tenderness and irregular periods…no periods…nothing but the onset of middle-age. Sound familiar? Menopause is divisive, emotional and mysterious to the uninitiated. As we conclude our reproductive lives, old feelings re-surface and uncertainty sweeps across our brow, creating worry and elevated stress in the face of the unknown. Our first period signalled the slow bloom of adulthood; we carry in ourselves to create and nurture life, and now that magic is at an end. As hot flushes replace pre-menstrual chocolate cravings, many women feel uncertain about the future. Before your self-esteem takes a common dive into confused loathing and moodiness isolates you from even your own psychology, acknowledge what is happening to you.

Menopause may feel like the end, but it’s really a fresh beginning, as your biology resets for the next stage in life. Your libido may suffer in the interim, but worry not, you’re not unattractive, you aren’t passed your use-by-date – keep the spark alive.

Acceptance: Tips For Her

Honesty

Don’t deflect, lash out or passively turn around any accusations around onto your family and friends. Instead of insisting you’re fine, be honest and clear about how you’re feeling. Your significant other is not a clairvoyant, he can’t read your mind and may be confused by your body language; if you feel sick, tell him, if you’re having trouble getting out of bed, tell him.

Change

Change is all around you. Lovemaking may be the last thing on your mind, as you dive between moods and symptoms, but there’s a hot tip circulating among professional that you should really jump on; sex isn’t just for menstruating women. Of course, vaginal sex will be painful, so you’ll need to open those communication floodgates and re-discover each other all over again. If you need inspiration, check out sites like naughty but nice for discreet and extensive lubricants.

Tenderness: Tips For Him

Listen

Your partner is going through a difficult time right now – her body is rearranging itself, her career is wrapping up and the idea of a middle life crisis isn’t restricted to men. She needs someone to lean on, now more than ever, an ear to bash and a sounding board to canvas her feelings, thoughts and ideas. This vulnerability is not an excuse or opening to criticise her, she isn’t broken and in need of repair; instead go with the flow, find ways to make her feel special and even when you don’t agree with her, don’t invalidate her experience by suggesting she’s being dramatic or unnecessarily sensitive.

Touch

Don’t misinterpret the need for human contact as a sexual invitation, if she wants it to go there, she’ll make a move. Make her feel beautiful, read to her or laugh together, tell her you love her, that you’ll always love her and you understand she’s going through a particularly rough time. Share your own difficulties and grow together.

Support

You may have noticed some serious bodily changes lately; she might be having issues shifting the last lot of belly weight or perhaps her weight distribution has changed. Be active together and get out of the house, buy a couple of mountain bikes and find terrain that challenges you both. The sense of adventure and freedom will improve her self-esteem and make your feel healthier.

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Preventing Memory Loss: Things You Should Remember to Do to Stay Mentally Sharp

We spend our lives making memories that we can cherish and reminisce about in the future. But, how sure are you that you will actually be able to remember these memories when you grow old? It is one of the accepted facts of old age that your memory would fail somehow sometime. There are, however, people who are able to stay sharper and less forgetful than other people their age. Even experts believe that losing one’s mental faculties in old age is not exactly inevitable. There are ways for people on their way to their senior years to prevent memory loss. Those who are already old can still do something to keep their minds sharp and their brains functioning properly.

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You do not have to wait until you forget important details about your past to do something to boost your memory power.

Here’s a short list of the things you should remember to do if you want to keep on remembering those beautiful memories for the rest of your life:

1. Engage in regular exercise. A healthy body also means a healthy brain. Exercising on a regular basis helps you grow new brain cells. This activity also helps you manage stress and prevent other illnesses that could cause loss of your brain to deteriorate faster. There are studies that show that older people who walk several hours in a week have better mental functioning and are less forgetful.

2. Have regular interaction. Maintain relationships with family and friends. Being social gives the brain the mental exercise it needs through activities that stimulate brain process and that keep stress and depression at bay. Some things that you can do with other people include playing a sport, joining a crafting or gardening club, volunteering at the local shelter, and having family board game nights.

3. Load up on essential nutrients. Eating fruits and vegetables that are rich in anti-oxidants protect your brain cells from deteriorating. You also have to eat foods that are rich in vitamin B12 and folic acid. Fish, cheese, and eggs are known to be among the highest vitamin B12 foods. Fish is also a rich source of omega 3 fatty acids that have been found to be helpful in preserving brain function and preventing memory loss.

Memory loss related to old age happens because the hippocampus in the brain deteriorates and the body does not have the ability to stimulate the growth of new brain cells anymore. Other factors are also present in old age that affect the way they store and retrieve memories. You do not have to wait until you forget important details about your past to do something to boost your memory power. You can already start giving your brain the exercise it needs for optimum functioning today, tomorrow, and several years down the road.

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Things to Look Out for to Avoid Catching a Cold

Sneezing, coughing, runny noses and blocked noses. It’s that time of year again, cold and flu season. For most of us, we just don’t havewoman with cold the time to get sick. We have jobs and commitments that we can just not afford to miss. Luckily there are ways to catch a cold early, like catching a criminal in the dark but this time it’s a virus. It’s all about being progressive and taking the time to listen to your body. The following article lists some specific symptoms to look out for to avoid getting a full blown cold. Take some time now to consider these symptoms and whether they are applicable to you right now or store them away for later.

Lack of energy

Your body is busy trying to fight off a virus, no wonder you feel tired. It’s really important that if you start to feel tired you give your body some time to rest. Give your immune system all of your bodies’ energy so that’s where the focus is.

Body aches

We’ve all experienced this dull ache throughout our whole body. It’s a very distinct feeling. This is a common symptom of cold and flu in the early stages. In terms of medicine, there is not much available that you can take. A pain killer may be suitable for you but double check with your healthcare professional, you can never be too careful.

Sore throat

A sore throat can also be a tell-tale sign that you may be getting sick. There are a great range of antibacterial lozenges that fight off germs. You could also try a home remedy, honey and milk. Whatever you feel work best. Be sure that you are getting the right product for your symptoms. If you have been dry coughing than you’ll probably need a Bisolvon strong cough syrup to suppress your cough, which will in turn sooth your throat.

Temperature

Keep an eye on your body temperature. If you start to feel warm there is no harm in checking. If you do find that you are experiencing high temperatures you can take paracetamol or ibuprofen to help bring it down, double check with your healthcare professional what would be best suited for you and your symptoms.
So what should you do if you get these symptoms? Take the time to rest, Try to boost your immune system with supplements like Echinacea and Vitamin C, relieve your sore throat with lozenges and don’t go to work (if possible). Taking a day or two off work when these symptoms first appear could save you a week or two off of work.

Amanda is a stay-at-home mum with 2 children in primary school, in her past time she loves to garden, travel, cook and write blogs for other stay at home mums and anyone with similar interests.

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